Planning Guide to Help You Get Hitched, Without Any Hitches
Love can do funny things to us. It makes us feel wildly optimistic and – for better or worse – invincible. But don’t assume that everything will just fall into place when you find ‘the one’ and decide to get hitched. Let’s face it, weddings are major events – it’s easy to mess things up.
There’s so much to organise when you decide to tie the knot – the catering, the venue, the music. For first-timers, it can be overwhelming.
This guide to getting hitched outlines several handy tips to ensure that your big day goes off without any hitches.
- Think ahead
If you are a spontaneous, spur-of-the-moment kind of person, you’ll need to rethink your approach when it comes time to plan your wedding. Even the simplest, most uncontrived wedding requires serious foresight and planning.
If you don’t want to think too hard about the details, you might consider hiring a wedding planner. An experienced planner can take the stress and guesswork out of your wedding arrangements.
Some nuptial details can be arranged at the last minute but you really are better off saving yourself the anxiety. Whether you want a small, intimate ceremony or an epic spectacle, a good wedding planner will tailor everything to your taste and budget.
- Meet your partner in the middle
We all have our own unique ideas and expectations about what our wedding day should look and feel like. Your spouse-to-be might be a total dreamboat who understands you completely and seems to want whatever you want, but don’t assume that they share your marital vision.
Remember: this is their big day too. Have open discussions with your partner to establish a clear sense of what they want from their wedding day. If their expectations are different from yours, be prepared to meet them in the middle. If you can’t reach a compromise on your wedding plans, how will you weather the tough times of a long-lasting marriage?
- Set your budget and stick to it
When planning for your perfect wedding day, keep your financial limitations in mind. By all means, dream big – but don’t be unrealistic.
It would be nice to wear Dior and have a philharmonic orchestra score your special day, but that would cost a small fortune. And most of us don’t have the clout to persuade someone like Lana Del Ray to give us a wedding freebie.
Luckily, a champagne-lover can still get quite a lot done on a beer budget. Be upfront with each other about what you want and what you can afford.
- Hire a wedding band that’s on your wavelength
Finding the right music for your nuptials is crucial. Wedding music should inspire smiles, laughter, goose bumps and tears. The wrong music will just leave you in tears – not tears of joy.
Discuss your music preferences with your partner, to make sure you are on the same page with your musical expectations. If one of you wants classical melodies and the other is hoping to go rock’n’roll, there might be some problems.
You can read a thousand reviews but the best way to find the right wedding band is to hear them with your own two ears. Your research can begin online. Most professional wedding bands have videos of their work on their websites.
- Don’t try to please everyone
When you try too hard to please everyone, you are more likely to please no one, including yourself. Remember this: your wedding is your wedding. It’s a very special day for you and, above all, it’s important that everything meets your expectations – not your mum’s, your neighbours’ or your BFF’s.
It’s admirable that you want to make sure that everyone enjoys the occasion. But if your friends and family are reasonable humans, they don’t need to be coddled. They will simply take pleasure from the fact that you are happy on your big day.
- If in doubt, elope
If all else fails, and the pressure of planning your wedding becomes too much to bare, elopement is always a romantic alternative. If Bette Midler, Lucille Ball and Jessica Alba can do it, so can you.
The money you save by opting against an extravagant white wedding can pay your way to a fabulous getaway destination. Once you and your partner get away from it all, you can relish one another’s company without distraction.
Do you have any failsafe tips that helped you get hitched without any hitches?
Author Bio: –
Jeremy started playing violin at the age of 3 and has never stopped. He absolutely loves playing music and founded ‘Musical Functions’. He is also a MC/DJ & regularly performs in wedding ceremony music with his wedding band “Something Borrowed” & his fantastic team of dedicated musicians who create the perfect musical experience for weddings.
Image by Amelia Fullarton